The Courage to Let Silence Do the Work
Silence can feel heavier than words. In conversations, especially as a leader, there's an instinct to fill every gap, to keep things moving, to show that you're engaged. But I've learned the most valuable moments often come when I do the opposite-when I leave the space open.
In my 1:1s, I try to pause before responding. It's not about waiting for my turn to speak, but about listening to understand, not just to reply. Sometimes that pause encourages the other person to keep talking, to elaborate in ways they might not have if I'd jumped in too quickly. Other times, it gives me the clarity to respond more thoughtfully-or even the courage to admit I need time before giving an answer.
When I first joined Loop, someone pointed out that I had a habit of filling silence. Luckily, I caught that before I started running 1:1s with my team. Those meetings aren't meant for my voice to dominate. They're their time, their space. My role is to hold it, not to crowd it.
As for interpreting silence, context matters. In deeper conversations-whether about growth, progression, or tough questions-silence usually means thought. It's the weight of someone considering their words, reflecting before speaking. I haven't yet experienced it as something negative. More often, it's the quiet before honesty.
Silence doesn't need to be awkward. It can be an ally. The courage lies in resisting the urge to break it, and instead trusting what it makes possible.
Next time: When Not Having the Answer Is the Answer
